I want my kids to know that they can have bad days.  

They're allowed to be upset, they're allowed to cry for no reason, they're allowed to hide under the covers for a little bit.  

We're all so concerned about our kids growing up to be awful, spoiled people that we forget the way we directly speak to them will have the most influence.

They're still learning.

They're allowed to make mistakes. How else will they grow? 

Our job is to cheer for them when they do something wonderful and to help them grow when they don't.